Dear Addy,
There is a girl who sits behind me in religion class who is always funny and helps me get through the day... the class is eighth period. I always show up to class thinking this will be the day I tell her joke or ask how she's doing but I'm too shy and never end up making a move. Do you have any advice for me on how to get the ball rolling? Thanks, Anonymous Dear Ball Roller, Personally, I love a guy who can make me laugh, even if it may be a basic cheesy pick up line. As long as you have a sense of humor you are in... possibly the friend zone at first but you have to start somewhere! My advice for you is to pick the ball up and run with it. All in all isn't that what running back are suppose to do? The hard part is to find what pick up line you are going to lay down. Some basics; "Are you from Tennessee? Because you are the only ten I see." Get it? Tennessee, ten-I-see. Try the classic "I don't have a library card, but can I still check you out?" If none of these are up to your standards you could make up your own pick up line. If you are not the humorous type try talking about the crazy Iowa weather, the difficult test next period, Thanksgiving, plans for the weekend, or the game last night. If you feel awkward talking to a girl by yourself try starting a group conversation with other people who sit around you. It eases the pressure of one on one conversations to an easy group convo. If things go wrong in the conversation you have an abort mission to start talking to someone else in the group. If you are lucky someone else might spark the conversation again after it goes terribly bad. If none of these methods work she is not the girl for you. I am a hopeless romantic. I watch a lot of chick flicks and romance movies. I strive to have a relationship like Ally and Noah from The Notebook. I have been with my boyfriend for several months and I don't feel the spark that Ally has for Noah. My boyfriend is kind and respects me but he doesn't do any romantic acts that the boys in the movies do. Should I stay with my boyfriend for being a good guy or should I keep looking for my Noah? Sincerely, Anonymous Dear Hopeless Romantic, Being a teen in the 21st century we are raised watching Disney movies of princes and princesses, Nicholas Spark movies, and TV shows of vampire brothers falling in love with a human girl. Everything we read or watch has unrealistic standards of a drop dead gorgeous boy that falls in love with a perfect girl in the most outrageous ways living happily ever after. In the real world that would most likely never happen, sorry. We romance-hermits need to get out of our fantasy head, filled with beautiful men, rose petals, and the long life dream of riding horses on the beach in Bora Bora with an Italian man who speaks little English. In reality do you believe Ryan Gosling would build a dream house for a girl who left him years ago? Would he really write Rachel McAdams every day for a year? Would Leonardo DiCaprio die for Kate Winslet to live or would he push her off the door to save himself? Would Zac Efron actually walk hundreds of miles to meet Taylor Schilling to thank her for a picture he found in the war? Personally, I doubt it. The point I am trying to make here is that movies are movies, they are fake. Containing actors who act. You should not compare your boyfriend to a person who's life is written on a script. Sincerely, Advice giving Addy |